The second thing we need to do is to find out how much money you actually spend each month again include everything even those items that your spouse does not know about like that Latte down at the coffee stand, that you get on a daily basis. It helps to break this down a little. Fixed nonnegotiable expenses, things we actually cannot do without, we all need food lodging medical care basic clothing insurance property taxes a car may be necessary where you live, you get the idea.
The most common budgeting method used is a blank piece of paper. We've all tried it at one time or another. Income is listed on one side, expenses on the other. The idea is to balance income against expenses so that, hopefully, there is still some money left at the end of the month. _ There are at least a couple major problems with this method. First, it's pretty easy to overlook quite a few expenses. Things like that daily stop at the coffee shop, or the cost of a car registration that happens only once a year.