The second thing we need to do is to find out how much money you actually spend each month again include everything even those items that your spouse does not know about like that Latte down at the coffee stand, that you get on a daily basis. It helps to break this down a little. Fixed nonnegotiable expenses, things we actually cannot do without, we all need food lodging medical care basic clothing insurance property taxes a car may be necessary where you live, you get the idea.
Complete a Budget Worksheet _ I would urge everybody to sit down with a budget worksheet once in awhile. But you really need to do this if you think your finances are out of control. The form should not take that long to fill out either. It is not important for you to be 100% accurate. It is important for you to understand how your family finances are working for you.