You should be able to document your income, expenses, and (hopefully) savings every month. If your income minus expenses is a positive number, you can relax a little. You still may want to work on your budget so you can save more for an emergency or retirement. If that number comes out negative, you could be in big trouble. Spending more money than you make means you must rely on credit. In turn, this means you are setting yourself up for more trouble because those credit card payments will get higher every month.
Include all variable expenses now, car maintenance, electricity, heating, these can vary throughout the year you need to calculate them and come up with an average monthly amount. None essential expenses like eating out coffee at Starbucks, weekend getaways, extravagant vacations, fancy clothing, motorcycles, ATV's, if you use them, write them down, realize these are wants, not needs. Now total these all up, fixed expenses, variable expenses, and non_essential expenses,there you now have your total expenses.