You can easily create your own budgeting worksheets by accessing free worksheets online and then customizing them to your specific needs. This is one area where you definitely don't need to pay money unless, of course, they come with a software program you purchase. However, if you just want to make a list of your income and expenses that you will use to create a budget then you can find plenty of free examples online.
The second thing we need to do is to find out how much money you actually spend each month again include everything even those items that your spouse does not know about like that Latte down at the coffee stand, that you get on a daily basis. It helps to break this down a little. Fixed nonnegotiable expenses, things we actually cannot do without, we all need food lodging medical care basic clothing insurance property taxes a car may be necessary where you live, you get the idea.