When most people hear about creating a monthly budget they run the other way in fear. They just don't know where to start. It certainly wasn't something that most of us where taught in school. However, it would have been more useful than some history lessons.
The second thing we need to do is to find out how much money you actually spend each month again include everything even those items that your spouse does not know about like that Latte down at the coffee stand, that you get on a daily basis. It helps to break this down a little. Fixed nonnegotiable expenses, things we actually cannot do without, we all need food lodging medical care basic clothing insurance property taxes a car may be necessary where you live, you get the idea.